When to Talk
- When TV, telephone and computers are turned off (to reduce distraction).
- When siblings aren’t around.
- When there isn’t a time limit. (Not 5 minutes before leaving the house).
- When everyone is calm.
How to Talk
- Chose appropriate time.
- Be respectful of each other.
- Make a genuine effort to see their point of view.
- Watch your body language and keep your voice down.
- Avoid “you statements”. Instead, use “I statements”.
- Don’t just talk about the other person’s feelings and thoughts. Reflect and talk about your own, also.
How to Listen
- Pay attention to your body language.
- Ask for clarification.
- Mirror what the other person says (“So you’re saying…”).
- Let the other person finish their thoughts.
- Pay attention to the words and emotions – practice empathy.