When to Talk
  • When TV, telephone and computers are turned off (to reduce distraction).
  • When siblings aren’t around.
  • When there isn’t a time limit. (Not 5 minutes before leaving the house).
  • When everyone is calm.
How to Talk
  • Chose appropriate time.
  • Be respectful of each other.
  • Make a genuine effort to see their point of view.
  • Watch your body language and keep your voice down.
  • Avoid “you statements”.   Instead, use “I statements”.
  • Don’t just talk about the other person’s feelings and thoughts. Reflect and talk about your own, also.
How to Listen
  • Pay attention to your body language.
  • Ask for clarification.
  • Mirror what the other person says (“So you’re saying…”).
  • Let the other person finish their thoughts.
  • Pay attention to the words and emotions – practice empathy.